Handmade custom invitations & stationery
by Kristy Rice

I decided to re-schedule today’s intended post for tomorrow.  Sometime you just have to make a decision and act.  As you know I tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve and the past two days are shining examples of that.  I’m an artist; living, breathing, full of emotions and ready to express them.  Yesterday I was faced with a rough situation.  At the time it seemed paramount, impacting and devastating.  I spent several hours ranting, fearing, resolving and expounding on my disappointments.

A switch flipped and in one moment I was shocked at the tremendous energy I was investing in negativity.  At that moment I decided to do something different.  I decided to literally channel the negative energy, refocus and reinvest into a positive project I had in mind for years now.   I know you have heard it all before, THINK positive, RELEASE the negative, but when it happens to you, for real,  and you can instantly see the results, it is powerful to say the least.

I have been tweeting friends and colleagues all morning and afternoon and realized many in the wedding industry are feeling similar and fighting the negative daily.  We all face the decision in the little and large moments of life.

I think collectively we have power.

Our businesses are about making beautiful for weddings, while navigating the daily ups and downs.

But what if we also made it our business to make beautiful and navigate our negativity; transforming it into fuel for the greater good?

Imagine what could happen…

The image above is of Nick Onken, a big thinker, artist and creative I admire.  In a post about a personal shoot he orchestrated he said

“Sometimes you get into situations where things go wrong, unforeseen things happen…Our job is to solve those problems and make something great despite the circumstances. “

Beautifully put.

So I have a grand idea in the works and will be sharing more details as they manifest.  In the meantime I simply wanted to share my mini-triumph and hopefully inspire you a bit.

Thanks for reading

16 Comments

  1. Liene Stevens

    Great post, Kristy. One of the things that helps me refocus when frustrated or annoyed is asking the question: “In 5 years will this matter or make a difference?” More often than not, the answer is no. When the answer is no, I can refocus that energy on something more productive and positive.

    • kristy

      Thanks Liene. Amazing point and such a perfect mental trigger to switch gears when difficult moments arise.

  2. Wendy

    Yay Kristy! I bet we ALL get into those nasty slumps and all we need is that ONE positive thought to sweep us off our feet and make it happen. Kudos to you and thanks for keeping it positive. I needed that today too!

  3. The Perfect Palette

    This post could not have come at a better time. Thanks for reminding me to focus on the positive and let go of the negative. I can easily relate to this on this very day.

    Beautifully put!

  4. Aleah + Nick

    Kristy,
    This is great inspiration. Sometimes it’s so difficult to weed through negativity but it’s wonderful when you change gears and steer that negativity into creativity and something positive.
    With all of your talent we can’t wait to see what positive things are to come!
    Aleah + Nick

  5. Jane

    My dad always said “And this too shall pass, the sun will come up tomorrow, and everything will heal by the time you’re married twice.”

    Since I’m quite a bit older than you I have found out that my father was so right. Clouds may hide the sun but since I’ve been on earth the sun has never failed to rise, all of my delimna’s have passed and all of my brusies have healed and I’ve only been married once to the best man other than my dad. I’m going though some hell right now but I put faith in my dad’s advice, trust him and me and count your blessings.

    Jane

    • kristy

      Thanks Jane. I am certainly counting my blessings and thanking my lucky stars. Realizing my struggles pale to some others’ was key to my mind shift. Thank you for chiming in today and best to you and your family.

  6. Julianne Smith (@gartergirl)

    This is a great post, thanks for being honest, putting it out there and making it OK to feel bad or negative. Sometimes you just can’t help how you feel and some days are good, some are bad. The wedding industry (and the blog world) is filled with “everything is perfect” and “everyone is happy”, so it can be even more unsettling when maybe you aren’t feeling the “happiness” all the time. Hang in there! Can’t wait to see what is to come!

  7. trisha

    Well said. Owning your own business, the lows feel so much lower, but the highs are so much higher. It’s definitely much easier to wallow in negativity; bravo on making the CHOICE to focus on the positive despite the situation.

    • kristy

      So true. As conscientious business owners we tend to internalize far too much. Making intuitive, mindful decisions and pro-activity leave room for clear thinking which as I have found can lead to big ideas.

  8. Jacqueline Butler

    Hi Kristy!
    Thanks so much for the wonderful post! I’m in the middle of some challenging times right now, and it’s not always easy to see the “bright side” or be patient that it will all work out. All I know is that I am the only one who has control over my outlook each day, and I tend to ask myself how I want to spend that time that is so precious to me. I also choose 5 things that I am grateful for every day…no matter what…including how blessed I feel to be a part of all of this to begin with. Sending my best wishes to you – and thank you for sharing your wonderful gift – your beautiful work makes me smile big!

  9. Michelle Loretta

    Let’s do it! I pride myself on being positive… but, sometimes negativity grabs a hold of you when you least expect it. ARGH. Can’t wait to talk to you more about this!

  10. Daniel Lanton

    Hmmm… You have me thinking today.

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  12. Chelsea

    I subscribe to your posts via email. I love getting them in my inbox, you are incredibly talented and I really enjoy viewing your work.

    I loved this post about turning your negativity into positivity. This is something I think all creative people face at some point in time or another and your take on it is wonderful. I will keep this in mind next time I’m feeling a little negative. Thanks Kristy and have a great weekend!!

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    “Sometimes you get into situations where things go wrong, unforeseen things happen…Our job is to solve those problems and make something great despite the circumstances. “ truly a quote to live by., No one doesn’t encounter hardships. All we have to do is little with the flow of life.